Falling apart is the doorway to transformation.
What do you do when life as you know it falls apart?
- All of a sudden something happens: an, illness, injury, job loss, break up, divorce, death.
- You're going about life as usual, juggling the slew of usual things when suddenly it all becomes TOO MUCH. You hit your limit. Tipping point reached. DONE.
- You have a growing malaise or restlessness without any logical explanation. Thoughts of continuing in the same way you have been chugging along trigger anxiety, a feeling of dread or despair.
it can be confusing, uncertain and utterly terrifying. It's hard to know where to even begin to know what to do.
You want desperately to fix it and make the problem go away. You seek advice, Google, ask experts. You're overwhelmed by the wealth of information, confused about how to apply it or perhaps none of the advice feels like the right fit. You have an unending flurry of questions, you feel stuck. You begin to despair. You will do anything to feel better.
When you're in the thick of CHAOS, your body-mind want to protect you at all costs. it wants to get as far away from the suffering as possible. Your body streams with hormones that keep you on RED ALERT while your mind is on overdrive seeking solutions. It's easy to get stuck here, but this way of being is unsustainable. You can search for solutions, rack your brain trying to figure out some other way, but all-in-all, this doesn't help you find relief or comfort. Something needs to shift.
There is a better way.
Suffering is one of the greatest catalysts for change.
Turn your attention inward.
You have an innate capacity to know what's best for you that draws on both the brain's ability to code, organize and interpret thoughts and memories AND the body's ability to sense and feel. Turning your attention towards what is happening on the inside, as it is happening, can feel odd or altogether impossible if you're not used to doing so and if your life feels like it's in a state of chaos. It requires a conscious, deliberate shift and it is different than what most of us are used to.
"You must unlearn what you have learned."
When you do this - ESPECIALLY when it feels like your life is in chaos - it can make all the difference.
As a mind-body coach I help people to fine tune their inner wisdom, by supporting them to feel sensations in the physical body, to become aware of and notice the movement and habitual thought patterns of their minds, and to allow the energy of their emotions to flow and inform their actions. Just like trengthening a muscle: turning towards your inner knowing gets stronger with practice and repetition.
You begin to notice that you have an internal compass that you can rely on when everything around you is chaos.
When you practice noticing your inner experience consistently, you find that it supports you to live in a way that feels more grounded and steady. It always directs you to what is most essential and true for you.
You aren't fundamentally changing the way you are with this approach to transformation. Rather, you are allowing the truth of who you are to be revealed, and in so doing, you are entering into a doorway for self-transformation.
I help men and women reconnect to their inner wisdom by helping them to become more aware of what's happening in their bodies and minds and how to interpret what they find, so that they can easily discern their best and most aligned action in any given moment.